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Something I said I was going to work on in the new year was being more positive. Often times I catch myself feeling like I can’t achieve something or not seeing things in a more positive light. In today’s age it’s so easy to automatically see everything negatively, especially with social media. It’s easy to want to compare yourself and then start feeling bad about where you’re at in life or what you don’t have. In the end I have come to realize that being negative gets you absolutely no where; it’s a complete waste of time. These are some of the things I’m doing to keep my mindset positive.

1. Stop using negative wording- I can’t tell you how many times I say things and don’t realize what it is I’m actually saying. I’m a firm believer that what you put out there is what you attract. So when you say things like “I can’t” or “it’s too hard” etc. then you’re right, it won’t happen for you. You’re only setting yourself up to fail, so stop! If you want something bad enough, keep trying and stay in a positive mindset. If you’re persistent and positive there’s really no way you can fail.
2. Stop comparing yourself to others- This is one of the biggest recipes for disaster! Today social media is such a big part of our lives, which is great, but it can also lead to a lot of comparison. Of course people are going to post the good stuff in their life, who wants to see a bad haircut or your latest zit (although I do think it’s good to keep it real, especially if you’re a blogger). The most important thing to remember is what you see is not always the “reality”. You never know what demons that person has as well, it just isn’t plastered all over their social media. It’s important to focus on your own strengths and weaknesses and do what you can to make yourself the happiest.
3. Count your blessings- When you’re feeling negative or down in the dumps, it can be hard to find anything good happening in your life. As hard as it might seem, take a step back and take a harder look. I’ll bet you have some pretty amazing things in your life, whether it be family, friends, significant other, a pet, a job, your health etc. You don’t have to have a Maserati living in the hills of Malibu with millions of dollars to be blessed. I think one of the biggest wake up calls was when my Dad got sick with cancer, and going to his treatments with him seeing so many sick people trying to save their lives. It made me feel so fortunate just to have my health.
4. Remember things always have a way of working themselves out–  You know those times where one bad thing after the next happens and you think “I just can’t take one more thing to go wrong!” I think we’ve all been there once or twice before. Anytime I have felt completely defeated and overwhelmed, somehow it always works itself out. It may be hard to think that when you’re down in the dumps, but I do believe that everything happens for a reason. Sometimes you just have to let go!
5. Sweat it out- When I’m feeling sad, anxious, mad etc. one of my favorite things to do is put my headphones and hit the treadmill or pavement. Even though you may not want to at that moment, I promise you, you’ll feel so much better after. It’s a proven fact that working out releases endorphins which help trigger positive feelings in the body. Make a playlist of your favorite tunes (music also always helps make me happy) and get to the gym or outside. Even just getting out for a walk outside helps me feel better. No matter what it is, just get that blood flowing.
6. Talk to family or a friend- Find someone you can get together with or call to keep you feeling positive and happy. Sometimes just being in the presence of somebody with good vibes help shift your perspective. You are who you surround yourself with, so make sure they are positive and uplifting!

Staying positive can definitely feel challenging at times, but this is how I plan to keep myself on track. What are some things you like to do when trying to stay positive?

Xoxo,

Danielle